Tue , 21 Apr 2026
Disobedient immoral child

Disobedient immoral child

salam,

My friend lives in USA, his daughter is 21 years old unmarried and college student studying at a distance of 9 hours from parents home. Both parents are muslim and religious. The girl does not follow islam. She wants to live life of this world. She does not like religious talk from parents. She does not want her parents or grand parents to come visit her at college. Parents suspect that girl is living immoral life. They suspect she has relations with men and drinks alcohol. Parents have asked girl to get married but she refused. She only wants to get married around age 40 and with her choice. And parents fear she might marry a christian or Jew. The girl wants parents to pay her living expense and college expense. The father does not want to pay her expenses. The father does not to speak with daughter but has to let come visit family because mother and other siblings want to see her. What is religious obligation of father.

1. Does father has to pay her expenses even if daughter does not listen to him or his advise on moral and religious issues. And if he has to pay what should be paid like food, tution, travel, car expenses and repairs etc?

2. Does father has to speak to her even if she says she is adult and does not to do anything that his father wants. Or can father stop her from coming home and cut off relationship with her?

3. And Can she be bared from her inheritence in father’s assest.

please reply in detail. thanks

Answer

Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

  1. The father has no financial obligation to his daughter in this case. She is not living under his care.

  1. He has an obligation to remind her of her duties towards Islam. He will be sinful if he does not do so. If cutting off relationship with her will be helpful in influencing her to be a better Musliim, then it should be adopted.

  1. He cannot disinherit his daughter.

The father should take full responsibity for his daughter’s condition as he gave her the freedom to carry out her lifestyle and allowed her to study away from his care.

And Allah Taäla knows best.

Was salaam