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As salamu alekum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuhu. I’m a european girl, from Romania. I’m 22 years old and I reverted to islam 4 years ago, al hamdulillah. I met a Muslim boy at work, 30 years old, married with a child for 2 years. His marriage is very unhappy, has not had a sexual relationship with his wife for at least two years, she does not pray, she does not respect him, she does not respect his family and often gives her mother as a negative example, she talks badly to him in front of people, it’s a very tense atmosphere, he feels disgust about her, they have no points in common. Almost every day she argue very hard to him, he is always very nervous because of this, a lot of months with no house cleaning, no cooked food for him, she not fulfilling her wife’s responsibilities towards him. His family advises him to wait for a miracle to change this situation, but he can not even look at her, he can not bear to think that he can ever touch her again and he stay in this marriage only for the child and for the fear of Allah. We fell in love with one another and found that we see life the same way and that we understand each other and we complete and fit together, we help each other to get closer to Allah and we help each other in deen and akhirah but we want to keep everything halal and the only solution is marriage. But he’s afraid to divorce and I’m not ready for polygamy, and I can not accept quietly and harmoniously to share my husband with another woman, I have not yet reached this level of faith, and my family and the people around me will never accept poligamy for me and will reject me from their life … Being a convert to Islam, I think it’s better for him and his religion and his future to divorce and have a wife to be dear, to care for him, to make him happy and to give him peace and harmony, to make others babies with her and to have a marriage for the sake of Allah, to love his wife for the sake of Allah. What do you think about our situation and what we have to do? We should give up the thought of being together or he should divorce his wife and marry me (or another woman good for him, his religion, his future) or I should be able to accept polygamy and for this to risk destroying my life, my family, my heart and my soul? Barak Allah fyk!!
