Prostate Massage

Ive read in a couple of places that there s a thing called the prostate massage. Although it is considered as a healthy thing to do for men, they say it also gives pleasure.
I know that I am absolutely not homosexual. But I also wonder how that feels. I ve seen almost no info about it about what our ulema says about it. and I wonder what you might say. Thanks

Answer

Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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We do not have any information on “prostrate massage”, and hence cannot comment.

See attached general articles on masturbation.

And Allah Ta’ala knows best.

Was salaam

Emraan Vawda

SOLO SEX (MALE AND FEMALE MASTURBATION)

Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and return to masturbation, or never give it up, the torments are great. Everywhere they look, their friends are unashamedly enjoying the pleasures of normal sexual relationship. No part of society caters for them and they are even cowardly shy to campaign for "Masturbators Liberation." Sex life for most of them is fairly empty.

One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relationship is premature ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When he is masturbating, he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible, but in sexual intercourse he normally has to attempt to control his excitement, which can impose a great strain on a person who indulged in self-abuse over a lengthy period.

Therefore people who continuously masturbate, lose out all round. The physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urination, or excreting, and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they are missing on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to masturbate without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. Masturbation is merely an exhaustive, rather than constructive undertaking, resulting in nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved there is Nothing else left, except for a feeling of complete emptiness.

The following extracts from the writings of a dignified physician of the Unani medicine will give one some idea of the damage done through masturbation: "Most often, students, bachelors or widowers and hypocritical godly persons are its victims. It is such an evil practice that has ruined many families and many more are being ruined today. The lack of manly vigor and decline in the standard of young men's health is evidence enough for this horrible social evil, eating into the vitals of an otherwise healthy nation. If only our young men could foresee the consequences of this evil at their own hands bring on them! It can be said with some certainty that eighty percent of our young men are the victims of masturbation. This accursed practice affects equally the heart, the brain, the liver, the stomach, the kidneys along with the reproductive organs. This practice makes the muscles and the nerves of the reproductive organ sagging and lifeless. Accumulation of fluids in the veins makes it unfit for its normal function. There is extreme feebleness in the power of erection. The heat of the friction between the delicate muscles of the organ and the tough hide of the hand damages the former beyond repair." (Miftahi, Modesty and Chastity in Islam)

Following the excitement which accompanies masturbation, comes the feeling of shame, anger, humiliation, and the sense of futility. This sense of guilty and humiliation deepens as the years go on, into a suppressed rage, because of the impossibility to escape. The one thing that it seems impossible to escape from, once the habit is formed, is masturbation. It goes on and on, on into old age, in spite of marriage. And it always carries this secret feeling of futility and humiliation. And this is, perhaps, the deepest and most dangerous cancer of our civilization. Instead of being a comparatively harmless vice, masturbation is certainly the most dangerous sexual vice that a society can be afflicted with, in the long run.

MASTURBATION UNDER ISLAMIC LAW

Islam strictly forbids the waste of seminal fluid through masturbation. The one who discharges his seminal fluid with his hand is damned. This evil practice removes the normal bright look of a man's face, and he looks melancholy and dejected. He loses his health and quite frequently his vitality and sexual stamina through this disgusting practice.

The Qur'aan declares: "The Believers are those who abstain from sex except with those joined to them in marriage bond, or those whom their righht hand possess for (in their case) they are free from blame, but those who crave something beyond that are transgressors."

Beyond the wife and slave woman all ways and means of sexual satisfaction are unlawful. They include adultery, sodomy, masturbation, etc. From this it can be deduced that masturbation falls under the context 'but those who crave ...' and is therefore immoral and a sin in Islam. Views expressed by the Shafi'i jurists on this matter are clearly illustrated by Imam Nawawi whose opinion is typical of the Shafi'i Jurists as a whole. He declared that masturbation was absolutely forbidden. It was only permitted when it was performed by the hand of a man's wife or concubine, for he has a right to the enjoyment of her hand as he has to the rest of her body."

The author of Subul al Salam according to al-Juzairi, states: "Some of the Hanbali and Hanafi Jurists are of the opinion that masturbation may be permissible in the event that one fears (that is, not engaging in it) would lead to his committing adultery, fornication. But be cautious that such a view is weak and is not to be relied upon."

According to Maliki school of thought masturbation is deduced to be illegal from the following hadith narrated by 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud (Radhiallaahu Anhu): "We were with the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: "O assembly of youths ; whoever among you possesses the physical and financial resources to marry, should do so, because it helps him guard his modesty, and whoever is unable to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.’

Therefore, the jurists of this school are of the opinion that if masturbation was permitted, the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) would have acknowledged its permissibility because this is much simpler than fasting. Since the Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) did not mention it, demonstrates that it is prohibited.

From the evidence presented so far, it can be seen that Shari’ah not only classifies this type of unnatural waste of seminal fluid as illegal, but also advocated strict measures for its prevention.

[ Morality in Islam, Acaciaville]

Masturbation is Haraam (unlawful).

This is the ruling of the four Madhaahibs viz. Maliki, Shafée, Hanafee and one riwaayah (narration) from Imaam Hanbalee. They have drawn their conclusions from the following proofs:

PROOFS FROM THE QURÃN

* Allah Taãla says:

'And those who guard their private parts from their wives and those (slave-girls) which their right-hands own - so there is no blame upon them. Then whoever seeks beyond that (which is lawful), they are the transgressors.

The intended meaning of these Aayat is clear. Allah Taãla has praised the believers for guarding their private parts from that which He has made forbidden for them. Allah has permitted them to approach their wives and slave-girls. Thereafter, these words of Allah Taãla follow: 'Whoever seeks beyond that which is lawful are oppressors who overstep from Halaal (permitted) towards Haraam (prohibited).

Hafiz ibn Katheer (RA) writes Imaam Shaafée (RA) and those who have agreed with him have concluded that masturbation is Haraam from this Aayat.' He says: 'Masturbation is excluded from these two types which Allah has made Halaal, viz. wives and slave-girls.

* Similarly, these Fuqahaa (Jurists) have drawn their conclusion from the following Aayat:

'And those who do not find the means to marry should remain chaste until Allah gives them resources by His grace.'

This Aayat shows masturbation to be Haraam because of two reasons: Firstly, in this Aayat Allah Taãla has given the command of chastity and, according to the principles of Fiqh, a command (an imperative) denotes Wujoob (incumbency, obligation). Hence to remain chaste is Waajib (compulsory) and wherever chastity is Waajib it becomes Waajib to refrain from that which is contrary to it, for example, adultery, fornication, and sodomy. This is due to the fact that obligatory chastity will not materialise except by complete refrainment from all that which is contrary to chastity.

Secondly: in this Aayat, Allah Taãla has made chastity obligatory on those who are unable to execute the command of Nikah. Here Allah Taãla has not determined any connection or link between marriage and chastity. Hence, this demands that masturbation should be Haraam. And if assuming, it was permissible, then Allah Taãla would have mentioned it at this point because this was the place of explanation. The silence maintaned by Allah Taãla with regard to it at a place which requires its explanation, denotes that masturbation is Haraam.

Imaam Qurtubi (RA) has written in the Tafseer of this Aayat: 'And when Allah Taãla has not determined any order between Nikah and chastity, then this shows that besides these two, everything else is Haraam. However, this Hurmat (unlawfulness) does not include slave-girls because another command of the Qurãn makes them Mubaah (permissible), viz.

'That which the right-hands earn (i.e. slave-girls).' Hence, in this manner an addition of slave-girl has come. Masturbation, however still remains Haraam.

'Those who seek beyond this (i.e. wives and slave-girls) are transgressors.' (Maãrij 31)

Under the Tafseer of this Aayat, Qaadhi Thanaullah Paani Patti writes: 'Imaam Baghawi has deduced from this Aayat that masturbation is Haraam.'

PROOFS FROM AHAADITH

* Similarly, the Fuqahaa have drawn their conclusion from a Hadith reported by Abdullah bin Masóod (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) in Bukhari and Muslim. He reports that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should make it compulsory upon himself to fast because it breaks lust.'

Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) directed the person who is incapable of bearing the burden on Nikah towards Sawm (fasting). If assuming, masturbation was permissible, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) would have mentioned it at this point. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) however maintained silence. Hence, this indicates that masturbation is Haraam because silence at the place of explanation gives the benefit of restriction.

* Some of the Fuqahaa have drawn their conclusion from a narration reported by Hasan bin Arfah that Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'Seven persons are such that Allah will not look at them on the Day of Qiyaamat nor will He purify them nor will He include them among the learned and Allah will enter them into Jahannam. They will enter Jahannam first except for those who repent. As those who repent Allah will accept their repentance.

A person who masturbates.
A person who performs the act of sodomy.
The person upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
A perpetual drunkard.
The person who hits his parents so much that they appeal for help.
The person who harms his neighbours so much so that they curse him.
The person who commits adultery with his neighbour's wife. (Ibn Katheer vol. 5 p. 458)

Hadhrat Anas (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'The person who performs Nikah with his hands (i.e. masturbates) is cursed. (Tafseer Mazhari vol. 12 p. 94)

SAYINGS OF OUR PIOUS PREDECESSORS WITH REGARD TO MASTURBATION

* Saéed bin Jubayr (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'Allah Taãla will inflict a punishment on a group of people because they played with their private parts.'

* Attaa (RA) says, 'Some people will be resurrected in such a condition that their hands will be pregnant, I think they are those who masturbate.'

and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

FATWA DEPT.

Masturbation and steps for overcoming it

Masturbation is defined as the manual stimulation of the male or female genitals, not by sexual intercourse designed to produce an orgasm. Masturbation is frowned upon by the major religions namely Islam, Christianity and Judaism. Masturbation is totally forbidden in Islamic Law.

One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relations is premature ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When a person is masturbating, he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible but in sexual intercourse, he normally has to attempt to control his excitement which can impose a great strain on those who indulge in self abuse over a lengthy period.

Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and return to masturbation or never give it up suffer a great torment. Everywhere they look; their friends are unashamedly enjoying the pleasures of normal sexual relationships. No part of society caters for them and they are cowardly shy to campaign for “masturbators liberation.” Sex life for most of them is fairly empty.

Therefore, people who continuously masturbate lose out all round. The physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urinating or excreting and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they are missing out on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to masturbate without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. Masturbation is merely an exhaustive rather than constructive undertaking resulting in nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved, there is nothing else left except for a feeling of complete emptiness.

Steps in overcoming masturbation

Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both male and female. And you can also be cured if you determine that it must be so. NB. If you want to give it up, you need will power and you need a determination

This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. Firstly, you must decide that you will end this practice and when you make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once. But it must be more than a hope or a wish more than knowing that it is good for you. You must realize that this is a great evil and you have to want to give it up.

It must be actually a decision. If you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to you. Before you give it up, ask Allah to help you and give you strength and steadfastness to succeed.

After you have made this decision then observe the following specific guidelines.

A guide to self control

Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet processes.
Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company.
If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don’t suppose that 2 of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind.

The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. It is mentioned in a Hadith that a person is upon the way of his friend. (Bukhari, Tirmizi)

When you bath do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath more than 5 or 6 minutes, just long enough to bath, dry and dress and then get out of the bathroom into a room where you have some member of your family present.

When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing, you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking and the temptation would leave you.

If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed get out of bed and go into the kitchen and fix yourself a snack, even if it is the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you get your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.

Never look at pornographic material. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember first a thought then an act. The thought pattern must be changed .You must not allow this problem to remain in the mind. .Once this is accomplished, you are well on the way to recovery; soon you can be free of this vile act. 8. Keep pure thoughts in your mind at all times .Ponder on the hereafter. READ GOOD BOOKS. Read Islamic literature. LISTEN TO THE SERMONS OF THE ULEMA. Read the Quraan make it a habit to read at least 1 Juz of the Quraan daily ,set a target of finishing 1 QURAAN a month ,read about the Seerat(life of )Nabi (s.a.w), also read a good Tafseer. Tafseer Uthmani and Ma’ariful Quraan are good commentaries . Ask Allah for help in overcoming this evil. Supplicate to Allah ask for help in combating this evil.

The attitude of the individual has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control this habit. The person must first realize the evil of this act. Secondly he must understand the reason for this behavior.

After these 2 steps, the individual needs to become sensitive to the situations and conditions which may cause a person to commit this vile act. Hence a person must guard himself from anything, which may trigger a desire for this act. By following these steps a person gains the ability to gain victory from this act, hence the power to control this filthy practice is developed .Remember you need also a bit of will-power.

SUGGESTIONS

MAKE Duaa daily; seek help from Allah, that which will strengthen you against temptation. Pray fervently and for strength when the temptations are the strongest.
Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercise reduces emotional tension and depression and is absolutely basic to the solution to this problem.

Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing.

When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell, stop to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a pre-chosen Duaa or Quranic verse. It is important

To turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge.

Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week, a month, a year and finally commit to never doing it again. Till you don’t commit yourself, to never indulging yourself in this vile act, you’ll always be open to temptation.
Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming tempting situations.
Begin to work daily on a self-improved program. Relate this plan to improving to your local Aalim, to improving your relationships with your family, Allah and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.
Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged, these emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these low periods through various activities, such as reading a Kitab, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc.
Start frequenting the Musjid. Make it a daily practice to recite part of the Quraan. Find out about authentic books which you can read from your local Aalim.
Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you, color the day black. The calendar becomes a strong visual reminder of self-control and should be looked at when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least three clear months.
A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and under certain conditions. Try and recall in detail what your particular times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens, plan to break the pattern through counter activities.
In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective technique called aversion therapy .When we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self control it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eat several of them as you do the act.
As soon as you wake up in the mornings get up and of your bed. DO not lie in bed awake, no matter what time of the day it is. We all know the famous adage an idle mind is the devils workshop. Get up and do something. Start each day with an enthusiastic activity .Start the day by reading Surah YAASIN .DO SOME PUSH UPS AND SITUPS.
Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large amounts of fluids before retiring to bed.
Reduce the amount of spices in your food. Eat as lightly as possible at night.
Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might create sexual excitement.
In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed frame in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken .The idea is to make it as hard as possible to do this vile act.

NOTE: SET UP A REWARD SYSTEM FOR YOUR SUCCESSES. IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE A BIG REWARD.PUT R5 IN A CONTAINER EACH TIME YOU OVERCOME YOUR DESIRES AND ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL. SPEND THIS MONEY ON SOMETHING WHICH PLEASES YOU AND WILL BE A CONTINUING REMINDER OF YOUR PROGRESS.

Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were part of your problem. Shaytaan never gives up. Keep a positive mental attitude and always stay on guard. You can win this fight! The joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment.
Speak to your local Aalim about this problem. Get involved with some Islamic activity, e.g. Study Tafseer or read Islamic literature.

Was Salaam