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Salaam,
My husband and I have been married for nearly 20 yrs now. In those 20 yrs I have never really had to depend on him financially as we received some sort of child support from the govnt of Canada.
We recently moved to Malaysia in hopes of a Muslim environment for our 3 children. Prior to moving here we made a verbal agreement witnessed by our old therapist that he would pay me $10000 in case I face any emergency and would continue to provide me with the amount the child support was paying me.
Now that we have moved he tried to change his story and now refuses to pay me the $10000 and does not want to pay me the support money either, rendering me to a vulnerability I have never had to face and am leaning towards leaving him because he’s too much of a miser and at times doesn’t even want to get us groceries because he says McDonald’s is cheaper.
I don’t understand what to do. And on top of all that Allah has blessed us with yet another child who I am currently carrying.
He insists on his Islamic rights, claiming his rights to be treated like a king ‘according to islam’ then shoots at me that I do nothing all day when I fulfill what I can and try to bring my kids up as best as I can. He repeats I don’t do anything a lot and over the years his anger has worsened and his disrespect gotten worse. I was hoping a, Muslim country would do us better but I am seeing no choice but to go back and leave him? Please advise. Jzk khair